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How Great Expectations Dating Can Set You Up For Failure

How Great Expectations Dating Can Set You Up For Failure

How long have you had great expectations, dating only people you thought would be perfect for you? Thats a major reason why so many people think of dating a new person as something to dread. Dating really can be fun again if youll let go of a few outdated ideas. Try to change your perspective, and you might be pleasantly surprised.

Thats not to state you shouldnt go on a date with some great expectations. Dating wouldnt be much fun if you prepared yourself for disappointment every time you went on a date. But the type of expectations you've needs to change. Then youll start to care about dating again, and itll be even easier for you to find that special someone.

First, if you go on every date looking for a spouse, stop thinking that way now. Even if youre just looking for a steady girlfriend or boyfriend, you should rethink it. You might very well find the perfect person by dating. But going on dates with that expectation can certainly ruin the fun.

When you go out with someone with that kind of great expectation, dating becomes a process. It goes from a fun time with someone you enjoy spending time with, to some kind of try out for a mate. Even if you dont state as much, the pressure is there under the surface. And that unspoken tension can ruin any date.

Imagine if someone asked you out with that great expectation? Dating them would make you feel like a bug under glass, wouldnt it? You might be flattered at first, thinking they thought you might be marriage material. But soon enough you might feel uncomfortably scrutinized, and rightfully so.

Thoughts of marriage shouldnt really enter into dating until youve been seeing the same person a lot. Even then it might be too soon. Usually you move from dating to dating them exclusively, and then to a commitment long before thoughts of marriage enter into the picture. This is the ideal way to keep things fun, and keep your heart from being broken unnecessarily.

So now that you see its ideal not to even think about marriage or a serious relationship yet, youve freed yourself up to have fun dating again. Date someone because you like that person. He or she interests you, and seems like a fun person to spend time with. It doesnt have to be a serious affair.

Ask your co-worker out to the motion picture you both want to see and just plan to have fun. Have great expectations, but only that youll have a great time, not that youll want to pop the question! If more comes of it, its a wonderful bonus. And you might find that with the pressure off, its actually easier for more to come of it.

Finally, if you find youre on a date with someone whos looking for marriage, dont be discouraged. If you focus on your type of great expectations, dating can still be fun, and you might even get them to lighten up a little.